Life Lessons | Mindfulness | Self Love

Bring Compassion into the Deep

Sometimes we blame ourselves for choices we’ve made in the past and go into a space of deep loneliness and shame. We spiral down in a self fulfilling funnel where we blame ourselves for not being able to climb out of the depths.

When I am in a shame spiral, I have learned to test my negative thoughts against Love.

I have found that I can’t talk myself out of the depths and using the computer as a way to write it out doesn’t work either. My ego jumps in front of me and makes up all kinds of excuses.

Taking a pen and paper slows things down and allows me to focus.

I write things down on paper so my ego doesn’t outwit me.

When I pick up my pen, I think of the most compassionate loving generous human I know. I imagine a person who doesn’t judge anything; a person who brings kindness and allowance to every situation.

Then I write to that person:

I’m in deep trouble. I need you.

Underneath, I write a response from that person:

I am here, what can I do for you?

I write:

I’m in serious trouble right now. I need your help.

and then I write down everything that I’m going through.

Next I write what that compassionate person would say to me. Use these words if you can’t think of any:

I love you, you are doing your best, you are a divine being, worthy of forgiveness and compassion and love and you didn’t know — if you had known, you wouldn’t have done it. You are really tired right now and you need your rest. You are innocent. We are all innocent. I’m going to sit with you all night and be here if you need me.”

I bring all my arguments and test them against that voice. I write:

I was an asshole, I am despicable. I did this and that and it was a stupid unforgivable choice.”

I write whatever it is that is troubling me. I bring all of the worst fears and problems to the page and write them down. That voice will take the worst that I can throw at her and she will work through it with me.

She always responds with love.

Never once has that voice said to me — yeah, you suck.

The response is always compassion and love.

This is a voice that we can all access. We’ve all heard those words of love; we have all offered those words to others when they needed it. We have all given support to someone in need or shown kindness to strangers.

Give yourself the support and love you need. Feel the emotions.

Emotions are energy in motion.

They are asking to be witnessed. They are seeking validation and love. And when they feel heard, they will move through you and be released.

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